"The challenge of relationships is to cope with and rise above your own and others' deficiencies, vulnerabilities and frailties", Types Of Interpersonal Conflict (Inter-Act Interpersonal Communication Concepts, Skills and Contexts Tenth Edition. Kathleen S.Verderber and Rudolph. Verderber Oxford University Press, New York 2004)

 

Pseudo conflict is a conflict that is apparent, not real. Incompatibility between the needs of the partners is a major cause of this type of conflict. A common form is badgering, light teasing, taunting and mocking behavior. Another form of pseudo conflict occurs when two people are confronted with needs that they believe cannot be achieved simultaneously. Pseudo conflict can escalate and become real if left undealt with or resolved.

 

Fact Conflict or simple conflict happens when the information one person presents is disputed by the other. These types of conflicts are simple because the information in dispute can be verified.

 

Value Conflict happens when people's deeply held beliefs about what is good or bad, moral or immoral, proper and improper are incompatible, and marginally different in the priority they assign to a value they agree on.

Policy Conflict is both situational and culturally based; this makes it common to most relationships. It occurs when two people in a relationship disagree about what should be the appropriate plan, course of action, or behavior with dealing with a perceived problem.

 

Ego Conflict can develop when discussion of factor values are undermined by personal or judgmental statements. The more expert you believe yourself to be, the more likely you are to become ego-involved when your word on that issue is questioned. Once your sense of worth becomes threatened, your ability to remain rational can be impaired. Before you realize it, emotions come into play, words may be said that cannot be taken back, and a conflict can be blown out of proportion.

 

 

When faced with a conflict one can withdraw, accommodate, force, compromise or collaborate. However, collaboration would have to be the most effective style when resolving a conflict.

 

During collaboration people treat their disagreements as a problem to be solved, so they discuss the issues, describe their feelings, and identify the characteristics of an effective solution (Lulofs &Cahn, 2000.)

 

 

Parenting would have to be the most difficult, yet most essential function given to man from the dawn of times. It is only through parenting that future generations are produced and raised to form and shape the future societies of the world.

 

Most of us as parents are plagued with the never ending pressure to display effective and adequate parenting skills, but seldom do we get praised for performing one of the most difficult tasks in life, raising children and become accountable for their behavior.

 

In order for parents to manage child rearing effectively and turn frustration and anger into pleasure and control, it is important that they understand the following:

 

 

 

Adolescents is a time of confusion and problems for most parents, lack of understanding of the physical, emotional and psychological changes that take place during this stage of development is a major contributor to most if not all the dilemmas faced by parents and caregivers in general.

 

According to the American Academy of Child Development and Adolescent Psychiatry the normal feelings and behaviors of the middle school and early high school adolescent are described below.